If you die without a will, you haven't left the distribution of your estate to chance — you've left it to your state's legislature. Every state has written a default distribution plan called the intestacy statute. It may produce the result you'd have wanted, or it may not. Either way, you get no say.
The Intestacy Formula
Each state's formula differs, but most follow a hierarchy like this:
- Spouse and children — divided according to state law (the split varies widely)
- Children only — if no spouse survives
- Parents — if no spouse or children survive
- Siblings — if no parents survive
- More distant relatives — aunts, uncles, cousins, continuing through the family tree
- State government (escheat) — if no living relatives are found
Notable omissions: unmarried partners, stepchildren (in most states unless adopted), close friends, and charities receive nothing under this formula regardless of your intentions or the closeness of your relationship.
Blended Families and Intestacy
Intestacy law is particularly problematic for blended families. In many states, if you have children from a prior relationship, your surviving spouse may not inherit everything — the estate is split between the spouse and the prior children according to the formula. This can force the surviving spouse to sell the family home to pay the prior children their share.
Unmarried Partners: A Serious Risk
Under intestacy law in most U.S. states, a long-term unmarried partner inherits nothing. A couple that has lived together for 20 years but never legally married will find that one partner's death triggers distribution to blood relatives — potentially parents, siblings, or cousins the deceased person was estranged from — leaving the surviving partner with nothing from a home or assets they shared. The only protection for unmarried partners is explicit estate planning: a will, beneficiary designations, and/or joint ownership.
Only Probate Assets Are Affected
The intestacy statute only controls assets that pass through probate — solely-owned assets without beneficiary designations. Many common assets already bypass the will:
- Joint tenancy property → passes to the surviving joint tenant
- Retirement accounts with named beneficiaries → pass directly to the beneficiary
- Life insurance → passes directly to the named beneficiary
- TOD/POD accounts → pass directly to the named recipient
- Trust assets → pass according to trust terms
The Simple Fix
A will is one of the least expensive and most impactful legal documents you can have. Even a simple will — directing who gets your estate, naming an executor, and perhaps naming a guardian for minor children — entirely replaces the intestacy formula with your own wishes. Online will services can produce a basic will for under $100. An attorney can produce a more comprehensive estate plan. Either is vastly better than dying intestate.
